Losing 'Control'

Being "in control" is a big issue in most people's lives. Most of us are uncomfortable being out of control because it brings anxiety, uncertainty, confusion, panic, and a loss of self-confidence, depending on how severe the loss of control is. 

It may not seem obvious but if you live entirely in the present, you are in control. And, your body (your cells) must be functioning well in order for you to feel that you are in a state of well-being. You can't be in control without a good night's sleep, because poor sleep leads to hormonal imbalances and several other problems. You need a steady flow of energy from regular eating habits and a whole-foods diet. There can't be constant stress, which steadily erodes the body's ability to rebalance itself after the last stress response has occurred. Chronic low-grade stress is a major hidden health hazard in our modern lives. 

According to Deepak Chopra, "we are also embedded in the field of infinite intelligence that we call consciousness, but unlike a cell, we can lose contact with that field."  To be in control requires that we tune in to the level of consciousness that isn't disturbed by all of the external stress. This is actually a natural steady state, but in our lives with its stress, distractions and fast pace, remaining steady and in the present moment requires us consciously being mindful. So...how do we cultivate present-moment awareness and stay in control? If you are present in the here and now, you are in control. When we practice meditation for a period of time, it's much easier for us to remain mindful and to return to present-moment awareness. But, you can also quickly return to a state of awareness by finding a quiet place to be alone, closing your eyes, taking a few deep breaths and find your center again.